happiness?

i believe i have actually posted an entry on happiness before. but i have decided to once again say something on 'being happy'. this time, in regards to being in a relationship.

i would first like to make clear to any one who is reading this that this is my personal opinion which, if you disagree with, i hope we can agree to disagree. this is my take on stuff and how i live, and i dont propose this to be some universal truth or law on how humans should think or behave.

i notice some people like to tell me stuff like:
'wow, you finally attached ah' or
'now that you have a girlfriend you must be damn happy'.

Occasionally, i also hear phrases like:
'one day when everyone is happily attached'
'when can we all have boyfriends/girlfriends'.

To me, i find it rather discomforting at times. True enough, iam VERY HAPPY, ELATED at that fact that people are vicariously happy for me, feeling my joy, soaking in my happiness etc. i feel loved, yes i do, not only by Joni, but also by people who care for me and want the best for me.

However, i also note that underlying some (not all) of these comments is, the idea that

A PERSON NEEDS TO BE ATTACHED/GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE TO BE HAPPY.
In my most polite tone i can muster, i have to emphatically say that i HIGHLY disagree with that.

NOW whassup with singles going around saying that they wish they were attached? OK, even if they dont say it explicitly, i know they think it!

MY TAKE: A PERSON CAN AND SHOULD BE HAPPY REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE/SHE IS ATTACHED OR NOT.

First of all, by thinking that you need to have a bf/gf to be happy/complete or whatever, i think you are severely delimiting yourself and it shows some low confidence. i would say, be happy when you're single,man, enjoy, relax, socialize, get to do the things you can do whilst you're single. some people will reply me, 'i've done that for the past X years. ' Well then, continue doing that till you find someone you really love. You are a complete person and you dont need a gf/bf to make you FULL.

2ndly, WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR BF/GF is? a commodity? what do u mean by you need him or her to make you happy? you make that person sound like a product man. i say, give your future bf/gf some respect. he or she is a complete human being like you too sostop talking about her/him as if she/he is some KFC chicken wing or Tony Roma BBQ Rib or something.

ok. i think i have not been able to explain clearly, really, what i mean by all that. SO, perhaps, if you have any doubts or confrontational issues with me, please do go ahead and have a conversation with me and perhaps enlighten me on your contrary position. i always love a heart to heart talk.

lastly, I was very happy being single, and i AM VERY HAPPY BEING together with Joni. i think she's a GREAT girlfriend and of course, there are many things that we can do as a couple that are sweet and nice and all and definitely, i say i dont regret 1 bit getting to know her and all that has happened from then till now.

Notwithstanding that,

Every moment in your life can be joyful and blissful. now let me end off with some evangelistic preach.

the end moment or goal in life (in my opinion and i think some people would agree with me, them being called christians) is not to find your gf/bf. It's knowing that God loves you and wants you to enter into a lasting relationship with Him. one that endures beyond yor time on Earth. So if you think you need fulfillment or meaning in life, i suggest, knowing more about God and Jesus, who is our comforter and Friend could be a solution.

God bless all of you!

(Joni Dear, i love you)